Churchy & Her Sailor

Knitting

2012-02-01T12:26:00.001-05:00

I have lost count of the many times Mom has tried to teach me to knit and failed. Well she hasn't failed I have. I struggled with dropped stitches and other frustrations. So I quit...

Recently I found myself drawn to patterns for leg warmers and cowls. Both of which involved knitting. Now I could have gone the easy route and have Mom knit them but I decided to have her try teaching me again. This time she taught my sister-in-law and myself. I love it. I finally got it. Now to be fair I had to restart multiple times so now I'm really good at casting on but I got it. I fell in love with Madelinetosh's pattern for the Honey Cowl and I'm working on a pretty silver (with sequins) cowl for myself. Then I plan on making a black one for myself then I may branch out and make them for friends. We'll see. The next project I'd like to work on is my legwarmers but one project at a time.

Here is my progress so far...

17 Rows Done!!

A closer look

It's a work in progress

Be True to Yourself

2012-01-31T10:53:00.000-05:00

I watched the movie "What's Your Number?" last night and it is a funny and sweet movie that I recommend. It was definitely worth the watch. Without giving away the story too much the main character was trying to find Mr. Right by going back through her exes. And she was also trying to find herself and her future.

Part of the story line was how she changed herself to fit each guy. And I got to thinking about how many of us have done or do that in our romantic lives. I started looking back at my exes and my relationship with them. The main one was my ex-husband he wanted a quiet, demure, Mrs. Beaver type housewife, who had the house spotless and dinner on the table all while wearing pearls. He wanted a very conservative wife both in personality and dress. I tried desperately for 7 years to be that person until I woke up and realized that was not who I was, who I wanted to be, or who I should be.

After our divorce I dated another ex (seemed like a good idea at the time) which ended up in me trying to conform once again to his needs. When that relationship ended. I spent some much needed time single. During this time I looked deep into myself to determine who I was, what made me happy, what ticked me off, and what I couldn't care less about. I realized where I stood politically, where I stood on major issues, and where I stood on silly stuff. I realized a lot about myself in the two years I took off from dating. Then after much thought and work on myself I jumped back into the dating pool. I thought I had it all under control.

But I realized I was slipping into my old habits with a guy I was interested in. I was getting into things he was interested in to impress him. Old Megan was coming back. So I stepped away again while I got my head right. Then I took a leap and went back into the online dating world again. I put my faith in God and my gut. If I listened to both I knew I would find the right guy for me who loved me for me.

I did. I found my husband. He loves me for who I am, where I am. He isn't trying to find 100 ways to change me. In our per-marital counseling when asked what we would change about each other. He said "absolutely nothing she's perfect to me." Yeah he scored points. But what we realized is that we loved each other as we were and we wanted to grow together. That doesn't mean we won't change. Change is inevitable but we want to change and grow together not change each other.

Starbucks Makes Me Happy

2012-01-26T09:51:00.000-05:00

I realize that I can brew coffee (this morning I got regular coffee and added my own Sugar in the Raw and half and half, both of which I have at home) and make oatmeal at home but there is something so wonderful about Starbucks coffee and oatmeal on my desk that it just makes the start to my day better. I might have a problem...I'm ok with this.

Priorities

2012-01-25T13:15:00.002-05:00

I learned that we can do anything, but wecan't do everything... at least not at the same time. So think of yourpriorities not in terms of what activities you do, but when you do them. Timingis everything. ~ DanMillman

I am trying to determine my priorities so I can make better use of my time. Here is the list of things I'd like to do...(no particular order)

Getting my house cleaned thoroughly
Sewing
Beading
Exercising
Menu planning
Training the dogs
Taking the dogs for long walks
Getting my yard under control

Things I have to do...

Go to work
Take care of the dogs/cats
Eat

I work from 9-6 Monday through Thursday and 9-3 on Friday. It doesn't allow a bunch of time in the evenings. On Thursday I lead a Bible study in the evening. I try to take a yoga class once a week. Lately though I just haven't felt like I've had time to things I want. So I'm trying to look at my schedule and see what I can rearrange to accommodate more of what I would like to do in with what I have to do. So that is my goal for February...figure out how to incorporate more of the likes into my life.

Branching Out

2012-01-24T10:10:00.000-05:00

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I find it interesting how foods become buzz foods so to speak. The one I keep seeing all over the place is brussels sprouts. And these are not your mama's brussels sprouts. These are gloriously green and crisp looking not overcooked and mushy. (sometimes hidden under artificial cheese goo) I have shunned brussels sprouts for years because I thought they were gross and mushy green balls. But seeing these recipes I've decided to branch out and try them. I'm debating which recipe to try because there are a few that look stunning. I figure if I can change my mind about asparagus (I used to think it was mushy and gross until I had it grilled) then I can change my mind about brussels sprouts.

I have three recipes I'm contemplating...

Weight Watchers' Roasted Brussels Sprouts with Maple-Balsamic Drizzle

Eat, Live, Run's Brussels Sprouts with bacon, dried cherries, and Israeli Couscous

Pioneer Woman's Brussels Sprouts with Balsamic and Cranberries

I'm leaning toward the Pioneer Woman's recipe because I've never had a recipe from her that I didn't like but the others sound heavenly too so I may have to try them all. Now I have to decide if I'll buy them already off the stalk or buy them on the stalk and cut them myself.

So what are somethings that you're trying new this year?

If You Want to Make the Military Laugh...

2012-01-23T11:45:00.000-05:00

...tell them your plans.

J and I had made tentative plans for him to come home this fall for R and R but due to some schedule changes this is not looking good and it is likely he won't be home at all this year. We knew that this was a potential issue but we hoped it would work out. I know that the military doesn't try to mess up family plans and that they are actually quite supportive of Geo Bachelors so I'm not upset with them. But I confess I'm upset at the situation because that means it will be over a year (more like 18 months) before I see him again. I've decided though that wallowing in it will do me no good. But I admit I did do some shopping therapy and some eating therapy in the process.

Now I have decided instead of dwelling on things I don't have control over, that I'm going to focus on what I do have control over...myself. I have been on a weird eating binge and a lack of exercise binge for quite some time. So last week I had class two of the weight loss Bible study (I lost 3.5 lbs) I lead and between that and my body grumbling I'm looking to get back on track. I've been doing better with eating (most days). So now I just have to get off my butt and get moving. I've been doing yoga which is helping my stress level but I need to get back to walking and other cardio. Plus I want to get back to strength training. The kicker is I don't quite have the motivation to do it yet. But I've signed up to do an 8K on March 17th so I need to get the motivation.

Closings

2012-01-19T10:54:00.003-05:00

In our area there are restaurants closing left and right. Last year we lost Firken Frigate, James Town Pie Co., Beamer's Grill, Silver Diner, Jo Jack's Coffee, and a number of other smaller restaurants. This year has brought the closing of Red Star Tavern and Saddleridge. I get that times are tough and so I'm not too surprised about the closings what I'm surprised about is the way they go about closing. They don't tell their employees and so when the employees show up for work the doors are locked. I understand that closing is tough on everyone but it just surprises me that they don't give employees a head's up. I hope this is the end of closings for a while but I fear more are to come.

When Cultures Clash

2012-01-18T15:51:00.000-05:00

So I have a dilemma... it's not really a dilemma because I know what I'm going to do but it is a culture clash none the less.

Our season opera tickets for Orphee fall on Super Bowl Sunday. {gasp} I've had season opera tickets since 2002. It used to be my father-daughter date and now thanks to the divorce it is my mother-daughter date. Anywhoo back to the point...I'm a pretty big football fan I consistently root for the Patriots and have well before they started actually winning Super Bowls. I play in two Fantasy Football leagues and I came in 2nd in one league and 3rd in the other. I haven't missed a Super Bowl in years...and I mean years.

Now the good news is the opera is at 2:30 PM but it is an hour away if traffic cooperates and it goes until 5:30 PM. So I'll still get to watch most of the Super Bowl but I'll miss the pre-game stuff. So my plan at this point is to go to the opera and then go to a friend's house to watch the majority of the game.

My wonderful husband's response was "well I'm sure the opera people don't think anyone there would be so average as to like football." He likes to pick on me for my eclectic mix of interests. It is part of what he loves about me...but he loves to pick on my dichotomy.

So what are you doing for the Super Bowl? Do you care who's in it or do you just like the fun of it? Or could you care less?

Customer Service

2012-01-17T11:44:00.000-05:00

I admit it floors me that a number of stores and restaurants aren't stepping up their service right now. It seems like it is going down in some cases. Recently I've had very mixed experiences. For example...

California Pizza Kitchen... both times I've been there recently their service has been above and beyond. Food has been great, correct, and came out quickly. We even found a manager to let him know how good things were.

Cracker Barrel...a group of four of us went for breakfast on a Saturday they were busy but not crazy. Some of us arrived a bit later so they said they were waiting well she disappeared. Then once we got food she was spotty with refills and actually another server took better care of us. So overall the experience was good but not because of our server. So we told the clerk and the manager about it. The manager was a bit concerned but pleased with the other server who picked up the slack.

Mole Hole...it is a small shop that sells different stuff like Pandora jewelry, cute clothes, and other little things that you don't need but are fun. The main reason I've gone in there is because of Pandora but after having multiple experiences with different sales people being rude, hurried, snooty, etc I'm done shopping there. I sent them an email and the owner sent an apology email but I feel it is too little too late.

Pandora...a new Pandora store opened up near by...this is bad. But the service is amazing!! They go above and beyond to make you happy. I can't recommend them enough.

Harley Davidson...a lot of people have a preconceived notion of what to expect when they go into a Harley store. I'm always amazed at how friendly, helpful, and pleasant the experience is even if they are hectic and busy they still give you undivided attention while waiting on you.

Eddie Bauer...I have shopped Eddie Bauer for years...in the store and in the catalog and over all their service has been good. What I love is if you are unhappy with your purchase for any reason even after wearing it they will take it back. I try not to wear things and return them if I can avoid it but I love knowing I can if needed.

What are some places that have given you great service? What are some that have given so-so service?

25 Questions for a Military Spouse

2012-01-12T06:30:00.000-05:00

I have seen this on a number of blogs this week but the most recent was The Misadventures of Mrs. Duh it was fun to read the answers so I thought why not?

1. How did you and your spouse meet?

We met online through Yahoo personals. I saw his picture one night in November and thought he was cute so I sent him a nudge. Well in December my membership was up so I decided not to renew it (or so I thought). I actually signed up for an in person dating service and went on a few dates through that with no success. So I was surprised when I got a response to my nudge the end of January. He and I started talking by IM. Then he asked me out on a date. So on February 9th I went out on date with a jerk of a guy because I had already had it set up by the dating service and couldn't cancel. Then I went on a date with J. Our date was at his house (I know not the best decision but I trusted my instinct). I knew I was in trouble from the moment I met him. I knew he was the one. The next day we spent the day together and we decided to be exclusive. The rest is history so to speak.

2. How old were you when you two met?

I was 30 he was 31.

3. How long have you been together?

4 years as of this February

4. Where are you and your spouse originally from?

He's a Detroit boy born and raised. I was born at the Air Force Academy in Colorado.

5. How did you feel about him joining the military?

He was already in when I met him. Fortunately he was on shore duty.

6. Where did your spouse go to basic training?

To be honest I don't know.

7. Has your spouse ever been deployed?

He deployed to Iraq for 6 months (I was not with him for the first deployment) and is currently in Japan.

8. Ever been to his promotion ceremony?

Nope but I still have my fingers crossed.

9. How long have you been a military wife?

2 years and 4 months

10. Did you marry him before or after he joined?

Well after he joined

11. How did your husband propose?

Kind of a funny story. When we first started dating I wanted the ring and the proposal. But the more I thought about it I decided that I didn't really want that because I'd had it with my first marriage and it didn't work out so well. He and I had had conversations about getting married so we both knew where the other stood.

We had started looking at his next duty assignment and one of his options was Japan as a geobachelor. So we knew we wanted to get married before he left. His family is mostly up north but my family (except my brother and his wife) and our friends are mostly down south. (Ironic for a Northern girl) So we were headed to his family reunion and we decided (per my Mom's suggestion) that we would get married at his reunion. So he talked to my Dad and got his permission and one night while we were in bed talking he looks at me and said "so do you want to marry me?" I smiled and said "of course."

12. Where did you get married?

Our first wedding was at his family reunion. We surprised his family with the news.when we got there after his Mom gave him the 3rd degree about when he was going to marry me. So I arranged for a minister to come to the camp ground and marry us. We also had him serve communion to everyone as part of the service. We got there early and went into town to get the license and talk to the minister. It was a beautiful day in a pavilion on a lake shore.

Our second wedding was back at our "home" church. It was a beautiful ceremony that meant a lot to us because every Sunday we sit in the same sanctuary we got married in. As a side note this can be a bad thing when he is deployed.

13. How old were you when you got married?

I was 31, he was 32

14. Did he wear his uniform on your wedding day?

I left that up to him and he decided to wear a tux. He looked amazing!!

15. Where are you and your spouse currently stationed?

He is stationed at Yokosuka Naval Base, Japan. I'm still near Little Creek Amphibious Base, Norfolk

16. Do you live on base?

No I live in our house and he lives in an apartment off base.

17. How long were you married when you had to go through your first separation?

We celebrated our first year in the beginning of September and he left the end of September of the same year.

18. What is your favorite base so far?

Since he and I have only been stationed at one base together. I'm going back to my days as an Air Force brat and saying Elemendorf Air Force Base. I loved Alaska!!

19. Do you think your spouse looks good in his uniform?

I joke with him that I only married him for the uniform. I'm kidding but he does look good in his uniforms. (the Navy has a lot of them)

20. Do you think military life is more advanced then civilian life?

No just different. We experience things that civilians don't and they often don't understand. J's family still doesn't fully grasp how it works to have him across the world.

21. Do you like the benefits you receive as a military spouse?

Heck yeah!! The health/dental insurance, the commisary, the exchange, and the connection with other spouses is great!

22. Do you have a lot of military wife friends?

I have a number of friends with spouses in other branches and some whose spouses have retired and I've connect with a number of them online. I think it helps a lot to have people who get it.

23. What is the hardest part of the military life?

The separation from your spouse. I knew I was signing up for this but it still has tough days.

24. Do you own military wife stuff?

I own one tank that says "sexually deprived for your freedom" it is well loved in this area. And I steal his stuff and wear it too.

25. Do you support your spouse as a member of the military?

100% I am so proud of what he does for me, our family, and our country. I wouldn't have married him if I didn't support him in what he does. I think it also helped that I was a military brat.

The First Step is Admitting You Have a Problem

2012-01-11T06:30:00.000-05:00

Hi! My name is Megan and I'm addicted to...

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Fruit Ninjas - I have my friend T to blame for this she showed it to me the other night when we were at a friend's birthday party. It is a highly addictive game. So be warned but go check it out.

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Once Upon a Time - So the writers of LOST have sucked me in again. I love this show it has great characters, a great story, and a great concept. If you haven't started watching I encourage you to go check it out.

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Teavana - I have always loved tea. I in particular love loose tea. And I have discovered Teavana I love the fact that you can mix teas or just drink them on their own. One of my favorites is the White Ayurvedic Chai and Samurai Chai Mate blend. The nice part is it is nice and light so you can drink it straight, with a bit of sugar, or with cream and sugar. If you are a tea person I highly recommend you check them out.

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Blue Bloods - Tom Selleck and Donnie Wahlberg...give me a moment...ok I'm back. Seriously though this is a well written cop show that includes a multi-generational Sunday dinner. I really like this show and how the family story runs behind the cop story. Apparently Donnie Wahlberg is a clown on set. Check it out.

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Pole Dancing - If ever there was an exercise that didn't feel like an exercise this is it. But it is a great workout! It is also sexy, fun, empowering, therapeutic, and it gives you girl power. I encourage you to take a class near you!

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Yoga - My mom did yoga for years when I was growing up and she's offered to teach me. But I admit as much as I love my mom there are some things that it is better if someone else teaches you. So in November I tried Hot Yoga and needless to say that didn't go so well. But I love yoga so I'm continuing to take classes with the goal of increasing my hold in Downward Dog.

So what are some of your addictions?

All I Need to Learn...I Learned from My Pit Bulls

2012-01-10T15:01:00.001-05:00

Do not judge based on the looks of a person (pit bull) they are very loving and well behaved (most of the time) and they too want to please you.

Just because you are small doesn't mean you can't tackle something big. Even as a puppy Ares was willing to tackle a big bone or big rope.

Be patient with those younger than you they have not had your experiences or your wisdom (I still don't have that) but you can teach them.

Rest...your health is important and sleep is good.

A lovable face will get you far in life (and out of trouble) but use it wisely. So will kisses.

Don't take yourself too seriously.

Sharing is good.

Stay alert. And greet people with enthusiasm.

Sometimes you are a princess and that is ok.

So what have you learned from your dog(s) or other pets?

Time...

2012-01-09T15:45:00.001-05:00

I am fascinated by time...

It always seems like I should have more of it and yet I don't. In a day it seems like I get up...take care of the dogs...get my breakfast...talk to J on the phone (while he's in port)...get ready for work...work...come home...take care of the dogs...get my dinner...watch a bit of tv (or go to a yoga class, etc)...then get ready for bed and start all over again.

When J left I had these illusions that I would have all this time to bead and sew and get stuff done around the house but I just don't seem to have the time or the energy. I wish I knew how to find the time and/or the energy. Part of it is just doing it instead of just thinking about doing it. But it just seems like time gets away from me so easily.

And yet when it comes to the count down of J coming home it seems like forever away. But at work we have a calendar meeting this week and so we are talking about our events for the year. So I know this year will fly by like they always do. We are in January and yet soon it will be June and then September and then December again. It is funny how time just ticks by.

So what about you guys does time stand still or fly by?

New Year's Resolutions 2011 vs 2012

2012-01-06T06:30:00.000-05:00

5.) Okay okay I have to ask…what are your New Year’s Resolutions for 2012 and/or how did 2011′s resolutions turn out?

I didn't set formal Resolutions for 2011 but my informal Resolutions included:

Getting healthier - I realize now that this is very general and I should have specified a bit more but I took steps to get healthier. In January I decided to lead a a weight loss Bible Study called First Place 4 Health that covered the balancing my life. As part of First Place it encourages you to exercise and follow the Food Pyramid for eating.
Walking at least two 5Ks - In 2011 I walked three 5Ks (The Wounded Warrior 5K, the Newport News Shipbuilding 5K, and the Frosty 5K)
Cook at home more often - I admit this was my hardest. When J was home it was easy I planned the menu and did the grocery shopping (he'd go sometimes too) and he would cook the meals.
Getting our debt paid down - We are doing better on this but there is still a lot to get through.

Here are my Resolutions for 2012

To read the Bible daily and do my Bible Study daily instead of all in one day. I'll admit I haven't gotten off to a great start on this. But it is early.
To walk regularly so I'm ready for the 8K, 10K and possible 10 miler that I want to do in 2012. It has been freezing cold in the mornings so I'm reluctant to take my ~~big babies~~ dogs out for walks because they don't like the cold. And it is far more tempting to cuddle with them than to get up and go to the gym. I know I need to work on this.
To eat healthier and to start eliminating artificial foods from my every day diet. I'm doing better with this because even when I eat out I'm picking real foods.
To create a meal plan and to cook at home more often. I haven't started this yet I need to get my kitchen cleaned out of the junk that I don't want or need then I'll be off.
To get our credit cards paid off. We are working on a plan for this. I think we are going to use Mint.com to help us out.
To take some classes to expand my knowledge for work. I'm looking at schedules to figure out when I can take these.
To continue yoga and dance classes. And to add weight lifting to my weekly schedule. Wednesday night I went back to Yoga...Thursday my body reminded me I went back to Yoga...Saturday I'm signed up for a dance class.

Thank you to Mama Kat for the writing prompt!! I encourage you to head over to her site and check it out and join up!

Team Loyalty Gone Too Far

2012-01-05T16:16:00.000-05:00

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I'm all for team loyalty to your favorite team. I cheer for the Red Sox, the Patriots (New England Girl), and the Red Wings (hubby's from Detroit). I have a vested interest in Football because of playing Fantasy Football. I love watching hockey and I'll admit I'm ok with a fight or two on the ice.

But when you decided to beat someone because their team won and yours lost then it has gone too far. Monday Night after the Winter Classic a New York Rangers fan who was also a former Marine and off-duty cop was beaten by three Philadelphia Flyers fans to the point that he needed stitches and has a concussion. I will say that people did try to stop the guys from Philadelphia and they tried to help the Rangers fans.

Seriously over a stupid hockey game? I'm sure alcohol was involved and I'm sure things were said by both sides but that's where it should stop. No one should end up in the hospital because of a game.

Here's another article.

What are your thoughts?

When He's In Port

2012-01-04T13:15:00.002-05:00

This is from our first wedding. I love his smile...me not so much.

Currently my husband's ship is in port. This means I get to talk to him daily on the phone. Sometimes I get to talk to him twice daily. I realize it will come to an end at some point but for now I will enjoy every minute of it!! It is amazing to me how much just hearing his voice makes the separation a little better. Next we have to work up to Skype. He got a laptop for Christmas that has a webcam so we're half way there.

Any Skype tips?

Happy New Year!!

2012-01-03T17:58:00.001-05:00

It is still hard for me to believe that it is 2012. It seems like we just started 2011. (It's also hard to believe I'll have to work a mostly full week this week.)

I'm looking forward to 2012 my hubby comes home for R&R in the fall so that is my main excitement but I have others I'm focusing on too.

I've decided that 2012 will be my year. I want to get healthy. I have too many health issues looming in my family to ignore my health so this year I'm dedicating to me. I've done a number of 5Ks but I'm working toward my first 8K in March. As I said in my Motivation post I'm looking for my motivation but I know that I need to get working on my walking and other exercise to be in shape for that walk.

Next week we start back up with First Place 4 Health so I'll have my official weigh-in next Thursday. Yippee!! Although I don't think it will be too bad because I haven't noticed my clothes getting crazy tight so I'm optimistic. We'll see.

I've also decided to work on cooking at home more. Over the holidays I got very relaxed about going out for lunch and dinner. I need to focus on meals at home and leftovers for lunches. I also want to expand my eating so I've decided to branch out and try some new foods like brussel sprouts and maybe even spaghetti squash. The other day at Uno's I had the most delicious brown rice pilaf with dried cranberries. So I'm looking for new and different recipes to bring some interest to my cooking. For brussel sprouts I found a maple glazed roasted recipe from Weight Watchers and a Balsamic glazed roasted recipe from Pioneer Woman. I'll let you know which one I decide and how they turn out.

So what are you looking forward to in 2012?

Motivation...Hello Are You There?

2011-12-30T06:30:00.000-05:00

As I've mentioned many times I struggle with my weight and my health. Now first off I will say that I know what I should eat and how I should exercise and I've seen results from this. However, I'm looking for my motivation...I'm not sure if it is in Zimbabwe or under the couch or down the street but it isn't with me. I know part of it is the holidays and part of it is J being gone but I need to refocus and work on getting healthy. I've signed up for an 8K in March so I need to work toward that because unlike a 5K you can't just walk up and do that. But my motivation is missing.

I have a membership to the Y, a membership to Twisted Fitness (a dance and exercise studio), vouchers to a yoga studio, and I have two dogs so I have no excuses. Well actually I can give you a huge list of them but none of them are good excuses. I want to lose weight and be healthier but I won't do that sitting on the couch eating junk so I'm hoping the New Year will bring a new level of motivation for me.

Although I will admit cuddling on the couch with the puppies under a big mink blanket and eating Reese's Peanut Butter cups does sound appealing. It will end up with me not fitting in my clothes and although I love shopping I hate buying bigger sizes so here we come 2012 this will be our year of good health!!

So what about you are you motivated? Do you have changes you want to make in 2012?

This Year in Blog Posts

2011-12-29T13:05:00.000-05:00

January

Wisdom Teeth
I put off having my wisdom teeth pulled until I couldn't put it off any longer so in January I bit the bullet so to speak.

February
Girl Power and Why We Need to Claim It
I cannot say enough good things about Studio Rio (Now Twisted Fitness) it has empowered me in ways I can't explain.

March
Wounded Warrior Project 5K
I set out to do at least two 5Ks this year. I've done three. And the fact that this benefited a cause dear to my heart made it even better. Also the fact that it was done around an old fort was pretty cool too.

April
Military Life from Alpha to Zulu
Riding the Roller Coaster hosted this and it was a lot of fun to come up with the list and to read others' lists.

May
Never the Same
Family drama can hit you when you least expect it.

June
Hi there! I'm back
I had a great time in June welcoming home my hubby so I didn't post much.

July
My Heart Stopped ...Figuratively
As a military spouse you know that there could come a day when the men in dress uniform show up and I had a scare when they came to work for a funeral and my heart didn't connect with my brain at first.

August
Deployment Bucket List
I decided to come up with a list of things to accomplish while J is gone.
Hello Irene!
Hurricane Irene hit and I hope I never have to go through that on my own again.

September
Extreme Makeover: Home Edition - Preview Review
My blog was chosen to get a sneak preview of the opening episode with Mrs. Obama.

October
Hot Yoga
I tried Hot Yoga for the first time and determined that it was for other people.

November
Teavana
I developed a new love affair with Teavana. My love of tea has been renewed.

December
Military Spouse Night Before Christmas

Now head over to Mama Kat's and link up!

A Christmas Recap...

2011-12-29T06:30:00.000-05:00

Ok ok so I'm doing this week in a weird order. I should have done this post before the New Year's post. These things happen. So a Christmas recap...

Mom and I decided to keep it simple on Christmas Eve and go to IHOP for dinner before heading to our church service. I admit it was good and not too crazy. Then we headed to church for a Service of Lessons and Carols which is my favorite. The sermon was really good...the pastor related current events to scripture and the story of Jesus. The catch phrase of the evening was...what the world needs now is a stable influence. Very enjoyable! Then on to a friend's Christmas Eve party. Much fun was had by all!!

Christmas morning Mom went to church and I had intentions of going to my church but there is a quote about good intentions and a road. I ended up falling back asleep and not waking up until 1:00 PM. We had a reservation at 3:00 PM and I still had to pick up Mom so I flew through the shower and went to get her. Dinner was at a Colonial Tavern and it was heavenly! After dinner we came back to Mom's house to open gifts. (I admit this is still my favorite part.) A few of my favorites...

A lovely locket from my hubby (he sent Mom money to go shopping for me)


From The Enchanted Locket

A cool purse from my Mom


Harley Davidson

And my absolute favorite a Black Onyx Rose Ring from Pandora also from my hubby

Santa (and Mom and my hubby) were good to me this year. What were your favorites?

New Year's Resolutions

2011-12-28T09:50:00.001-05:00

Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man [or woman]. ~Benjamin Franklin

Every year I set New Year's Resolutions some of them reachable and realistic others not so much but there is something about setting them that feels right to me so I do it every year. So here are my resolutions for 2012.

To read the Bible daily and do my Bible Study daily instead of all in one day.
To walk regularly so I'm ready for the 8K, 10K and possible 10 miler that I want to do in 2012.
To eat healthier and to start eliminating artificial foods from my every day diet.
To create a meal plan and to cook at home more often.
To get our credit cards paid off.
To take some classes to expand my knowledge for work.
To continue yoga and dance classes. And to add weight lifting to my weekly schedule.

I'm sure others will pop up but those are my main focus. What about you what are your New Year's Resolutions?

Christmas Photo Card

2011-12-27T16:45:00.001-05:00

Here is the card that is being sent out to my friends and family this year. With J gone and a lack of planning while he was home I have no pictures of us so I decided to go cutesy this year. And I admit they are going out in January because I'm behind. It happens...

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Merry Christmas!

2011-12-25T08:36:00.001-05:00

Wishing you all a Merry and Peaceful Christmas!

Military Spouse Night Before Christmas

2011-12-23T06:30:00.000-05:00

Twas the night before Christmas and all through the house,
there was a prayer being said by a military spouse.
Her husband was away this holiday season,
and she knew it was for a good reason.

He was protecting her freedoms,
and those of people who he never knew.
Although it was hard to have him gone,
she knew it was something he must do.

He stood not alone for many stood by his side,
men and women who would lay down their life.
Christmas would come as it did every year,
and those men and women still stand without fear.

Although families may be apart,
our men and women are always in our heart.
We have pride in all they do,
and we appreciate that you do too.

As we celebrate the birth of Christ our King,
with presents under the tree, and carols to sing.
Let us give thanks to God for His Son,
and for those who guard our home.

For peace on earth we still pray,
so our loved ones will no longer have to fight.
Until that day let us just say...
Merry Christmas to all...and to all a good night.

Written by M. N. Collins

Holiday Family Traditions and Stresses

2011-12-22T06:30:00.000-05:00

At staff meeting on Tuesday my boss asked us to go around the table and share our favorite family tradition and what was stressing us. At the time I was focused more on work so I said the favorite family tradition was coming to Christmas Eve service and my only stress was there was something that I was forgetting because things seem extremely calm at work. (fast forward to today...we discovered a mistake in one of our Christmas Eve bulletins that has already been run so we have to rerun it)

But as I thought throughout the day I determined that honestly what was stressing me was my lack of family traditions right now. With J gone and my Dad celebrating with his new family I feel very unsettled family tradition wise. But then as I thought some more traditions can change and Mom and I are coming up with our own traditions. It may seem weird at first but they are fun. And growing up it was often just Mom and I so this really isn't that weird. It is funny how much point of view can change the way you think.

So what about you what are some of your family traditions? And what are your holiday stresses?

My Observations About the Christmas Story

2011-12-21T12:15:00.003-05:00

So in honor of Christmas I thought I would include some of my observations about the Christmas story...

Mary was 14 years old, a virgin, and pledged to an older man. When she became pregnant by the Holy Spirit you can imagine some issues with parents and her betrothed. I can tell you I did not have enough faith at 14 to have handled all that as gracefully as she did. But she had faith.

Joseph always amazes me. He could have publicly humiliated her but that didn't cross his mind he was going to walk away quietly. But after the angels came to him he too had faith.

I cannot imagine being pregnant. But I certainly cannot imagine being pregnant and riding on a donkey. Again Mary had faith.

Shepherds were considered to be low in society at that time. They were not people you would invite to your home let alone the birth of your child. And yet God felt they too needed to be part of the birth. It takes all kinds.

The Three Wise Men took risks to find the baby Jesus and keep him hidden from Harrod. They too had faith.

The inn keeper always tweaks me a little bit because I feel like he could have done more for them. And yet I realize that there was a point to Jesus being born in a lowly manger. Here was the King of Kings being born in a feeding trough. God always has a plan we may just not understand it at the time.

This time of year I think it is easy to get lost in the details of presents and trees and parties, etc. But I wanted to take a moment and share some observations I've had over the years about the Christmas story.

What are your observations?

Secret Santa Thank You!!

2011-12-20T06:30:00.000-05:00

This year in my insanity (I only say that because of working in a church this is a very hectic time) I decided to participate in the Secret Santa Gift Swap that Wife of a Sailor was hosting. I received Jen of Jen and Her Marine (she has a great blog you should check it out). I had fun shopping for her gifts! And the post office wasn't too bad when I sent them.

I received a wonderful package from the Happy Wonderer over at For These Are My Mountains she and I share a love of Alaska's beauty since we both have lived there. She sent me a very cool book The Little Lady Agency by Hester Browne it's a chick lit book so far so good. And a very pretty glass hurricane with a pretty red candle. It looks lovely on my table! Thank you so much for goodies!!

MilSpouse Friday Fill-In # 66

2011-12-16T13:33:00.001-05:00

I'm late to this because I thought it had published but it didn't so here it is...

1. One of my New Year’s resolutions is to get healthier. There are a lot of health issues that run in my family and I'd like to avoid them.
2. One thing I’d like to happen next year is for me to develop a better self care plan as far as exercise. I know I need it but I give myself too many excuses.
3. One thing I’m looking forward to next year is my husband coming home to visit. And knowing that after 2012 we're down to single digits until he comes home.
4. One change I’d like to see next year is my job evolution continuing...they've been working toward getting me into more advanced communication but I still back up the phones. I'd like to see us hire a receptionist or at least a set of volunteers.
5. My plans for NYE include I’m not sure… probably going to a friend's New Year's Eve Party but not too late because I'm thinking of doing the Hair of the Dog 5K.

Now head over to Wife of a Sailor to link up!

Shamrock 8K

2011-12-16T06:30:00.000-05:00

From http://www.shamrockmarathon.com/

So my friend J and I have signed up to do the Townbank 8K portion of the Shamrock Marathon. I admit I'm a bit worried and need to get cracking on preparing for this walk. But I'm also excited. There is something incredibly fun about race day. Especially themed race days like this where everyone is all dressed up. It is just festive. So we are working on our outfits for race day. I'll give you a few previews of what I have in mind as I find them.

On a side note I'm debating about doing a 5K called The Hair of the Dog on New Year's Day. It doesn't start until 10:00 AM but I'm just not sure I'll want to drive an hour in the morning after being up late the night before. I'll keep you posted.

New Year's Eve (the movie)

2011-12-15T06:30:00.000-05:00

I went to see this movie this past weekend. It is by the same director who did Valentine's Day and Pretty Woman. I liked those movies and I admit I like ensemble cast romantic comedies. I loved it! Yes you have to suspend reality about some of the story lines but you're ok with it. (or at least I was because it's a movie) I don't want to give any spoilers but there are story lines that can touch anyone and everyone can relate to. I recommend it if you are looking for a fun, good hearted, romantic comedy.

What movies have you seen lately? Did you like them?

Top Ten Favorite Things About Christmas

2011-12-14T06:30:00.000-05:00

Working in a church Christmas can get lost and enjoying Christmas becomes trickier because we are running around like crazy people getting ready. So I decided to focus on some of my favorite things about Christmas are...

10 - Giving gifts...I love to see the expression on someone's face when they get something they really love.

9 - Singing Christmas Carols...I love singing Christmas carols of all kinds but my favorites are Angels we Have Heard on High and O Holy Night.

8 - Christmas lights...on Christmas Eve my Mom and I drive around and look at lights. We've added some other nights to our tour as well over the years.

7 - Santa Claus...I love the concept of Santa Claus and for that I believe Santa is real. He just gets some help along the way. Although I've always wondered about the Nice and Naughty list.

6 - Department Store Decorations...I love the decorations at stores because it is always so festive and it puts me in a better mood. Which is usually destroyed by my fellow shoppers.

5 - Christmas Movies...I love watching Christmas movies they help get me in the Christmas mood.

4 - Christmas Parties - I love celebrating Christmas throughout the month. And I love celebrating with my friends and family.

3 - Christmas morning...as a child I loved the wonder of seeing the tree and the presents. As an adult there is just as calm that comes on Christmas morning. All the world is right.

2 - Christmas Eve Service...I love the Christmas Eve service because it reminds us of what the holiday is about and I love lighting our candles while singing Silent Night, Holy Night. There is something magical about that moment.

1 - The Christmas Story...I never tire of hearing the story of Mary and Joseph and the birth of Jesus.

What are some of your favorite things about Christmas?

Approaching 35

2011-12-13T06:30:00.000-05:00

So on Friday I turn 35. But I'm not really too concerned about it. I'm good with it.

And although at times a December birthday can kind of stink I've had very good Birthday celebration luck. I received a coupon from Red Robin for a free hamburger, a coupon from BD's Mongolian BBQ for a free dinner, a coupon from Victoria's Secret for $10 off, and a coupon for a free movie at CineBistro.

This Friday I'm taking a dance class to learn a routine to Santa Baby. Saturday some friends are taking me to lunch and Mom is taking me to dinner. The only thing that could make it more perfect would be my husband being here but at least I should get to talk to him on my birthday.

In my family birthdays were celebrated at a moderate level nothing crazy but not too toned down either. Mom always made the cake of our choice which for years was what we called Waldorf Red Cake (in the south it is called Red Velvet Cake) and we got to pick our favorite dinner too. For years that was Sukiyaki our version of the Japanese dish basically it is a variation of stir-fry. And of course presents (in an effort to make sure we don't feel cheated by our December birthdays Mom and Dad would often give a number of gifts).

In honor of my 35th Birthday I've decided to do a list of 35 things I've learned over the years...

I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. ~ Phil 4:13
Don't judge others you don't know the whole story.
Pets are children too.
True friends are there no matter what the circumstances and love you anyway.
There are people you thought would be with you all your life and they have left...that is ok.
Sometimes a pedicure and a manicure can make the world feel right.
Usually if you are nice to people they will be nice to you. (there are exceptions)
Good things do come to those who wait (but not necessarily on your schedule).
True love is worth waiting for.
The military is a wonderful institution who works on their own schedule (and they will not consult you).
Your parents can disappoint you in ways you could never imagine.
Your siblings really are an important part of who you are.
You are responsible for you and you alone. Do not try to be responsible for others. And you need to take responsibility for your actions.
Every decision has a consequence some are favorable, some are not.
There will always be more beautiful people, people with more money, and people who seem happier than you but you are a beautiful person and you can be happy. (the money you have to work for or have wealthy relatives)
People (especially husbands) cannot read your mind. If you want something tell them what you want, do not hint, suggest, or otherwise assume.
Everyone has and is entitled to an opinion but it is ok to disagree with them.
The right man will love you more than you can imagine.
Anything that can break in your home will break the moment your husband leaves for 6 months (8 months, a year, etc).
The song (poem) was right wear sunscreen and take care of your knees.
Any project in your home will always take longer than you think that it should (and will often be more expensive).
Be careful when setting your expectations...aim too low and you'll be disappointed...same thing if you set unrealistically high ones.
Laughter really does work like sit-ups so laugh often.
You should love your job but don't let it take away from your home life.
It is ok to say no.
You can't please everyone.
Chicken on the kitchen counter is just too big a temptation for the dog (or cat).
If you find a man who can heat up the kitchen and the bedroom keep him.
There is always someone who has it worse than you.
Don't tick off the trashman, the person who packs your parachute, or your cat there will be consequences that you don't like.
Enjoy life...no one on their death bed says I wish I dusted more.
You need to get out of your box at least once it will help you grow.
You do not have to put up with abuse (emotional, verbal, physical, etc) of any kind in a relationship regardless of the type of relationship or who it is with.
Above all love.
Sometimes you have to jump and build your wings on the way down. ~ Unknown

Leg Warmers

2011-12-12T10:48:00.000-05:00

I LOVED leg warmers in the 80s! I had them in different colors and loved them. In all fairness I lived in cold climates and liked to wear skirts as a child. It is a battle that my mother and I fought often so the compromise was leg warmers. I was in a photo shoot on Saturday and the photographer had me put on leg warmers for one of the pictures. It turned out so good. I loved it! So I went on Etsy and looked for patterns and I found some cute ones. But there is a catch...they are knitting patterns and I don't really knit. I know how to in theory but I've only knit small beaded purses I've never knit clothing. So I'll have to go to Mom and have her show me how again. But I bought these three patterns. I'm thinking of starting with the first one and we'll go from there. So wish me luck! So do you have any fashion items of the past that you wish would come back or are happy that they have come back?

Patterns by Faima

RedLipstickNY

Natalya's Studio

12 Days of Christmas

2011-12-07T06:00:00.000-05:00

Yummy Stuff: Chobani Yogurt

2011-12-06T06:30:00.000-05:00

Ok I realize that I'm late to the dance on this one but I didn't like Greek yogurt initially. But I decided to brave the fruit on the bottom version and I'm hooked. I love that it has more protein, is low fat, is all natural, etc. I admit I've decided it needs something crunchy so I'm going to add some granola to it in the future. But I'm in love with Greek Yogurt now. If you haven't tried it I encourage you to do so!!

Do you have any foods that when everyone else was raving about them you weren't so sure?

Surf & Santa 10 Miler & Frosty 5K

2011-12-05T12:27:00.001-05:00

Right Before We Started

I woke up very early Saturday morning ~~after being out til midnight the night before~~ bright eyed and bushy tailed. The dogs and I got up at 5:15 AM. They went outside and had their breakfast while I got myself ready to go. I took a quick shower because I remembered my hubby's advice that a clean body regulates it's heat better and since it was supposed to be cold I thought that sounded good. And it might or might not have woken me up.

6:00 AM I headed over to Virginia Beach to pick up my packet and get ready. The nice part about this race is it starts and ends at the Virginia Beach Convention Center so I got to stay nice and warm until the start of the race. I picked up my packet and went to the lady's room. Then I discovered they had been given the 10 Miler shirt not the 5K shirt so I went to switch that out.

At about 7:30-7:45 I headed over to the start. They had four corrals as a walker and slow one at that I was in the 4th corral. So they had a moment of silence for those military men and women who were deployed this holiday season and for their families who support them at home. (I admit I got teary eyed) Then they had a chorus sing the National Anthem. Then they waved for the start of corral #1, and after each corral we moved forward until it was our turn to go. We started around 8:08 AM according to my watch. It took me an hour to complete the 5K which wasn't my best time but I think the cold, the wind, and my lack of sleep hindered me some. They called out my name when I crossed the finish line which I wasn't prepared for but it was kinda cool.

I forgot to take pictures of our bag of loot...I will have to add those later. It was a reusable bag with my shirt and a Santa hat. Then at the end of the race we got a medal, a hat, and lots of food. I bought a Christmas ornament and another long sleeve t-shirt. I admit the t-shirts and the medals are a good incentive!

A few observations:

Runners get priority. Which I appreciate because they are trying to set records and they are moving fast but a couple times it felt like we walkers were in the way. That and the runners got applauded we just got waved at.
Races will have miscommunication. On of the race volunteers told me to get to the left so the runners could be on the right. Then I was told to go to the right so the runners could be on the left. One lady got a bit snippy that I was on the left side but when I explained I was told to be there she softened some.
Holiday races bring out all kinds of clothing. Imagine Whoville, Santa Baby, Little St. Nick, etc all blended together. For next year I plan on decking myself out a bit more.
Big races are fun and I look forward to doing more of them including the Shamrock 8K in March.

So that makes 3 5Ks this year!! I may possibly do the Hair of the Dog 5K on January 1st I haven't decided yet. But technically that would count for next year. So now I want to work on improving my time for future races.

MilSpouse Friday Fill-In #65

2011-12-02T13:32:00.001-05:00

1. If I could be on any reality TV show, I’d want to be on "Pit Bulls and Paroles" because I think the work they do with the dogs and the paroles is great and I think it would be a cool experience.
2. This past Thanksgiving was the second Thanksgiving with just Mom and I and it is still an adjustment to not have my hubby or my father involved.
3. I’m looking forward to December because I love Christmas and my birthday is in December too! Plus I get extra time off from work!!
4. One thing I’d like to accomplish this month is to get my head back in the game so to speak regarding my exercise and eating. I realize this seems crazy with the holidays but I don't want to undo everything I've done so far.
5. To me, winter is a long time of not fun weather and short days. Although I'm not a huge fan of the heat of summer I do love the sunlight. Coming home in the pitch dark isn't fun. (although after living in Alaska these Virginia winters are nothing)

Now head over to Wife of a Sailor to link up!

MilSpouse Weekly Roundup #61

2011-12-02T13:30:00.001-05:00

Head over to Troop Petrie and link up.

I Understand the Grinch...

2011-12-01T10:18:00.001-05:00

I'm not sure why but I'm not really in the holiday spirit. I'm hoping it will come but I won't be surprised if it doesn't. J is gone and we aren't able to talk much while he's underway. My father is spending his time with his new family so it is just Mom and I. Now don't get me wrong we have some fun things planned for my birthday (Dec. 16th) and Christmas but somehow I'm just not there excitement wise.

I'm trying to look at things in general that everything happens for a reason. I get held up at work so I don't get into the car accident because someone was in a rush. I don't get to spend Christmas with J so I appreciate my time with him more and I get closer with my mom. My father is in the life of his stepdaughter because she needs a good male role model (ok I admit I snicker slightly as I type that). But you get my point. I know God has a master plan and I just have to trust it. I know that faith doesn't always come with full understanding.

So I'm working on it but it is slow coming. And yet Christmas will be here before we know it. Now I'm off to work on a bulletin for another Christmas service. The joys of Church work!

Top Ten Favorite Holiday Movies

2011-11-30T09:20:00.000-05:00

It is that time of year where every character that has ever been written about has a holiday movie. (Shrek the Halls) And some of them I love...some of them I can't stand. Today is my top ten favorites...

10 - Elf - I admit this was a reluctant one for me to watch because I'm not a huge fan of Will Ferrell but I admit I love this movie. Especially the end about Christmas spirit...gets me every time.

9 - The Family Stone - although I find parts of this movie hard to watch I do think it is a great movie for Christmas. The Christmas gift exchange gets me every time.

8 - Fred Claus - this was a cute movie and Paul Giamatti as Santa Claus works perfectly. Along with Vince Vaughn and Kevin Spacey they make the movie. I'm a sucker for the happily ever after.

7 - The Miracle on 34th Street (circa 2004) - I love this movie it is so sweet and cute. And Santa wins!! I love the end when the little girl figures it all out.

6 - Christmas Shoes - This is a toss up between love and hate. I love the story but it is so gut wrenching that it is a tough one to watch. I think Rob Lowe does a great job in this movie.

5 - Christmas Eve on Sesame Street - I watched this on TV every year and loved it. I could relate to Big Bird wanting to solve the mystery of how it all worked to get Santa down the chimney.

4 - Love Actually - When I first saw this movie in the theaters I was newly divorced but I loved the romance represented in this movie. And I love when the Prime Minister goes door to door. But the scene that gets me is when the guy delivers the message to his friend's wife. You want to hate him and yet you feel for him.

3 - White Christmas - I LOVE this movie!! I think it is a great movie! The end with We'll Follow the Old Man gets me every time. As I type this I get teary eyed thinking about it.

2 - A Chipmunk Christmas - As a child I loved Alvin and the Chipmunks (I still haven't watched the new versions) and I loved this movie. Although I love the record recording best I think this movie has such a cool story in that Alvin did something right and ends up almost getting punished for it. But he truly got the meaning of Christmas.

1 - How the Grinch Stole Christmas - I can almost recite this movie. (My husband can recite this movie including the songs) I love this movie because I love Dr. Suess, because I love the story, but most of all I love Max! The scene where he is on the back of the sleigh waving makes me laugh every time.

So what are your favorite Christmas movies?

Teavana

2011-11-28T11:45:00.000-05:00

A couple weeks ago Mom and I were supposed to go to the opera but due to horrible traffic we were hopelessly late and decided to go to a mall near the opera house. This mall has a wonderful place called Teavana. I admit our initial introduction was loud and chaotic so I wasn't sure what to think. Sadly it wasn't the customers being loud it was the employees loudly talking to each other about personal issues. And then they had so many employees that I couldn't take a step without a "hi can I help you?" Now don't get me wrong I like attentive employees but seriously this was nuts. I was ready to go when I saw their samples. One of the samples was Chai tea blend of White Ayurvedic Chai and Samurai Chai Mate. I LOVE Chai tea so I had to try it. I loved it so I went ahead and bought 2 oz of each of the teas (you have to buy at least 2oz of tea at a time). The "tea expert" proceeded to try and sell me an air tight container and German Rock Sugar. I appreciate suggestasales but she went slightly crazy on explaining the how and why I needed these things.

I admit I have since bought the air tight containers but less expensive versions of them. I also went back this past weekend bought some Earl Grey Creme Black Tea. I love it too with a bit of sugar in the raw and some cream...yummy!! I'm excited to report there will be one on my side of the water the end of January. I can't wait. So I encourage you to take a moment to check out their website or if there is a store near you check it out!

Happy Thanksgiving!

2011-11-24T05:57:00.001-05:00

Peanuts by Charles M. Schultz

Wishing you and yours a very Happy Thanksgiving!! Let us remember to give thanks!

Dancing with the Stars: A Testimony

2011-11-23T10:13:00.001-05:00

J.R. & Karina dancing

First off...I've watched Dancing with the Stars for a number of seasons and I have never thought the finals were as well balanced as they were this season. To me J.R., Ricki, and Rob all deserved to win the mirror ball trophy. And I was shocked that Ricki was the 3rd place winner but all of them were so good.

Now onto my point. I am beyond thrilled that J.R. won! And here's why...he went through a horrific experience in Iraq having been injured during an explosion. He spent 34 months in recovery at BAMC and underwent 33 different surgeries including skin grafts and cosmetic surgery. He certainly had his struggles in the recovery process. And I think his winning Dancing with the Stars (yes I know it's just a dance competition) speaks volumes about what you can do when you put your mind to it. Life certainly has it's share of stumbling blocks and J.R.'s has had some big ones but he has overcome them. I hope his acting and his participating in and winning Dancing will be an inspiration to others. I hope when people look at them they'll see that with faith, tenacity, and strong will they can do whatever they want to do. I really think he has a gift of inspiration and I hope other military men and women will be inspired.

For more information about his story...please check out his website.

Emotional Shopping and Pampering

2011-11-19T21:58:00.001-05:00

So Saturday night I met my Dad's new wife and his 9 year old stepdaughter (more on this in a later post) so Saturday morning and afternoon I did what any "rational" person would do I went on an emotional pampering and shopping spree. Saturday morning I called my salon and asked if Jackie was available to color my hair. She was if I could come right then. I hopped up off the couch, got dressed, washed my face, and went out the door with horribly tangled mess of hair. Jackie graciously combed the tangles out, applied color and wet styled it.

Then I went off to get Mom so we could go look for lighting for her dining room. First we went to IHOP for breakfast then we looked at lighting. It was quite a productive trip!

Then I went and got a pedicure and a shellack manicure. Loved loved loved the pedicure. Not so thrilled with the manicure. It is much more expensive and when I got home I noticed I had the shellack on my cuticles, the sides of my fingers, etc. so as a former nail biter and picker this is bad because it gives me stuff to pick at. I will probably try it again but I'm not thrilled with the current result.

Then off to NY and Co for some earrings and a great wallet.

Then home to relax with puppies and to get ready to go meet the step family. I know that hair coloring, pedicures, and manicures are not necessities but they certainly made me feel better.

Any of you have emotional shopping or pampering or both?

Yoga Update

2011-11-17T11:17:00.001-05:00

Hot Yoga is not for me but I love yoga. Hot Yoga is specifically Bikram Yoga which is a version of yoga that has been synthesized from Hatha yoga by Bikram Choudhury. It is traditionally done in a room that is 105 degrees with 40% humidity. I tried it three times and I determined the following...(for myself only some people may take to it quickly)

The poses are very advanced for a beginner.
The poses are done at a very high transition rate that does not lend itself well to beginners.
The temperature of the room does help you get more flexible but it can also aggravate other health issues. So you have to be careful and very in tune with your body.
The way it was taught the instructor did not interact too much with the students so at times I felt like I was unsure of what I was doing without any guidance to fix it. And that I was in danger of getting into poses incorrectly and possibly injuring myself.

I need a slower, cooler, more hands on instruction to start out. I signed up at another yoga studio for a Yoga 101 class that is a very slow, hands-on class led by a delightful instructor who encourages contemplative movement and intentional flow. I LOVE it!! It is a 6-week series so I'm enjoying the gradual increase. It is much more relaxing for me.

It's Beginning to Look Alot Like Christmas

2011-11-17T11:12:00.001-05:00

It is hard for me to think that Christmas is just around the corner. But it really shouldn't be because...

The shopping areas are starting to decorate for Christmas
Local stations are starting to play Christmas music
How the Grinch Stole Christmas has been on the TV
They are talking about Black Friday already
I'm getting my brother and his wife's Christmas presents ready
And in order to get them to him by Christmas...I've wrapped my husband's Christmas presents and will take them to the post office soon

So what about you are you feeling Christimasy or do you want to get through Thanksgiving first? I myself would like to be like Nordstrom and celebrate one holiday at a time.

Under the Weather

2011-11-16T07:00:00.000-05:00

I'm a princess!

Last week I got back into the habit of walking the dogs. I was taking each of them on a 40 minute walk around the neighborhood. Well apparently I over walked Eva because she injured her right front paw and has been put on rest for this week. We have to go through a nightly ritual involving a nasty smelling (and tasting I discovered accidentally) spray where I spray her paw while Ares tries to help. It's great!! I can't wait til she feels better and we can get back to walking she gets a little grumpy without her daily walk.

Judgement vs Accountability

2011-11-15T07:00:00.000-05:00

So I have been reading Resolution for Women and I went to see Courageous the movie. Both of them are very good and have had me taking a serious look at my faith and how I'm living it out. It has raised some questions for myself and brought about some conversations with friends.

The major one has been the difference between being judgmental and holding someone accountable. I think as Christians we are called to hold each other accountable for our actions. And my friends says that we are not to judge. I could argue both sides easily. Because we shouldn't judge others but at the same time as Christians if we see a fellow Christian going down a path of destruction I think we are called to call them back. It doesn't have to be in a judgmental way but sometimes it needs to be in a firm manner. Then she made an interesting comment that struck me...she said it isn't fair to be held accountable for things of the past. But I guess the way I look at it is I'm responsible for the past, present, and future of the life I live because they have been, are, and will be my choices. Then I wonder if I'm looking at this too cut and dry. Is there a grey area where we aren't accountable? Should we let people go about their lives and let them live the way they want? Is tough love outdated?

So this is the topic that's been running around in my head. How can we hold people accountable without being judgmental?

I might be insane...

2011-11-14T10:22:00.001-05:00

I've decided to set a goal to work up to a 10 mile walk (race).

There is a Santa 10 Miler in December every year over in Virginia Beach and I've decided to aim for next year. I don't feel I can get there yet for this year but I'm thinking of doing the Frosty 5K on the same day.

Then I'm thinking of doing the Hair of the Dog 5K on January 1st also in Virginia Beach.

And I'm going to work toward the Shamrock 8K in March.

And then I'm going to walk the Wicked 10K in October.

And I'll walk the NNSB 5K in November.

And of course the Coup de Grace...the Surf n Santa 10 Miler in December.

So there we have it in writing. I figure I have to have some accountability so you guys are it! (the only catch might be finances because these get expensive)

What are some of your goals for activity?

MilSpouse Friday Fill-In #64

2011-11-11T13:18:00.001-05:00

1. Freedom is not free.
2. Veterans are often taken for granted.
3. This country is a great country that gives us much to be thankful for. It has it's issues like everywhere else but we are afforded many freedoms that we take for granted.
4. Veteran’s Day means a time to take a moment and really think about the sacrifices men and women have made to give us our freedom.
5. A hero is someone who sets their needs and wants aside to stand up for those who cannot or will not stand up without asking for recognition.

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Milspouse Weekly Roundup # 60

2011-11-11T12:54:00.001-05:00

Head over to FreeBorboleta and link up.

I Don't Like It...But It Works

2011-11-10T07:30:00.000-05:00

I ~~have discovered~~ am discovering that there are a number of things that I'm not 100% fond of doing that are actually quite helpful to me when I do them faithfully.

The Neti Pot - I will go on record that this is an uncomfortable and slightly disgusting practice. But it works wonders for sinus and allergy issues. Your sinuses feel violated at first but after they feel much better and clean.
Exercise - I know, I know you are thinking well duh. But exercise is needed in my life for me to lose weight. It also makes me feel good when I'm done. And if I exercise more I can eat a bit more so it's a win-win in my book.
Flossing - I hate flossing with a passion but it makes my trips to the dentist much better. And having had crazy under the gum cleaning I will floss all the time to avoid that again.
Doing the Dishes Right After the Meal - Again some of you may think this is a no brainer but I've been known to let them set for a bit and then clean them. It is much easier to clean as you go or immediately after the meal.
Using After Shower Spray - It makes cleaning the shower easier because it cleans as it goes. I don't always remember this if I'm in a hurry but I try.
Putting Laundry Away - I'm notorious for washing laundry and folding laundry and then leaving it in the basket. I've done this quite successfully for years. But it really does make life much easier in the morning if I put it away so I'm not digging through a basket.
Menu Planning - I actually don't mind this horribly at the time it is the follow through that has issues. I enjoy planning and don't even mind shopping but on the night sometimes I want to throw in the towel and go get something.

What are some things you aren't too fond of but you do because it works or it is better?

How Do You Mend a Broken Heart?

2011-11-09T11:35:00.001-05:00

I have three friends who are grieving for different reasons but grieving none the less. And it is hard because you can throw out the cliches but you can't make it better. You can say I'm sorry but they still hurt. You can be there with your love, your prayers, and your presence but you can't take it away.

My dear friend S had been dating a guy on and off for a year. In July he broke it off when she confronted him about where it was or wasn't going. She was a wreck. We consoled her and listened to her and let her cry. We held our comments about him to a minimum. And we have been with her every step of the way since July helping her heal in whatever capacity that may be. She was doing better but deep down I think she held onto the hope that there might be a chance. Well on Monday night this guy invited her to a semi romantic public place to tell her that he was dating someone else. The wound that was mostly healed has now been torn open once again. S is taking time to herself to process and heal but it is going to be a rough time for her. And all the scriptures and cliches won't make her feel better right now.

My other dear friends P and M had to put their dog to sleep yesterday. He had been in their lives for the past 10 + years. He was their child, their best friend, their guardian, and their loved one. He will be missed. He was an amazing lovable dog who was always ready to play fetch and greet you at the fence. As I was taking my dogs for a walk this morning I saw the end of the mooring rope that my husband had given them for the dog to play with in the trash. They are cleaning out what was the dog's and I get that but it is still an emotional process. I think my dogs know because I was home from work yesterday with a migraine and my dog Ares was on me like glue.

I realize in the grand scheme these may not seem earth shattering but for these people their lives are forever changed.

Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. ~ Matthew 5:4

Real Women Have Curves

2011-11-08T07:30:00.000-05:00

I have been giving some thought to what weight, size, etc I want to get to in my weight loss journey. And here are some things I believe.

Every body has a weight that it is comfortable being - now this doesn't mean I stay at 200+ lbs because I don't want to work to lose weight because my body is far from comfortable right now. I am overworking my body right now. But I don't think I would be healthy looking at 108. I'm aiming for 140-150 and then I'll decide from there.
Thin is only beautiful if you're meant to be thin - I am meant to have curves. I will never be willowy thin. I'm ok with this.
Being Healthy is more important than being a certain size - I'm losing weight to look better certainly but one of my main goals is to improve my health.
Realistic Goals are important - refering back to point one I think it is important to set a realistic goal for my age, activity level, etc.
The scale is not the only measure - there are other milestones to measure including clothing size, being able to go longer on the cross trainer, being able to lift more weight, being able to go for a longer walk, being more flexible, being healthier, and how my ~~close~~ (one should not type when tired) clothes fit.
Strength and Beauty are in the eye of the beholder - what one person may think of as too big another may think is a perfect size. What I can do and what I can endure may be different from what you can do and endure and that is ok.
Healthy Role Models are a good thing - Christina Hendricks (of Mad Men), Sara Ramirez (of Grey's Anatomy) and Kelly Osborne (of the Osbornes) are some of mine.

Christina Hendricks

Sara Ramirez

Kelly Osbourne

Shipbuilding 5K

2011-11-07T11:55:00.000-05:00

NN 5K 2011

On Saturday morning I literally got up at o'dark early to take care of the dogs before my friend S and her co-worker D arrived to pick me up. It was cold and it was windy. Not a fun combination when walking. But we had agreed to do the 5K so I was going to do the 5K. It wasn't too bad because it was all on level ground. We walked in downtown along the water. It actually wasn't too bad. Now I'm a slow walker and since I hadn't done as much to prepare I was even slower so we made it in about 45 minutes but we made it. And as D said it doesn't matter if you walk a 6 minute mile, a 16 minute mile, or a 60 minute mile at least you're up and moving.

And now a funny...

MilSpouse Weekly Roundup #59

2011-11-04T09:40:00.002-04:00

Head over to Destination...Me and link up.

Food Orgasms

2011-11-03T11:12:00.000-04:00

Ok I admit it probably isn't healthy to admit food gives you something close to an orgasm. But when you're going without you gotta take what you can get...

Here are a few things that have recently given me a warm fuzzy...

These are Shari's Berries and they are a piece of heaven on earth. They have the most amazing chocolate wrapped around the most scrumptious berries. I had these at the Halloween Party I went to last weekend and I loved them. I had two because anymore would have been too much. They have all sorts of holiday and birthday themes to pick from and they deliver them to your door.

This one is a little healthier. At the Zenya Studio they have tea for you to have after class. It is Yogi Mayan Cocoa Spice tea it is like hot cocoa tea. Add a bit of milk and maybe a dash of sugar and it is perfect. It is also good straight. I've had other Yogi teas and they are really good so I recommend trying them all.

Well we all know the cheesecake at The Cheesecake Factory is wonderful but so are a number of their entrees. I had their Herb Crusted Filet of Salmon with green beans and mashed potatoes. It was amazing. The salmon melts in your mouth and the sides were a perfect compliment. The salmon wasn't too strong and had no fishy taste. I will definitely try it again.

November Goals

2011-11-02T13:02:00.000-04:00

I've been inspired by The Life and Lessons of Rachel Wilkerson and Beth's Journey and their lists of November goals. So I decided I would share my November goals.

Clean up my house...one of the dangers of your spouse being deployed is that it is easy to ignore things because it is just you and you are the only one who has to deal with it. My kitchen counter is slightly buried in mail, my bedroom has piles of laundry (clean and dirty), my carpet needs a vacuum desperately, and I'm tired of it so I am going to get it back under control.

Weekly Yoga Class...I have purchased some passes for local yoga places on Groupon and Living Social so I've been using them to take a weekly yoga class. I'm really enjoying it and I feel much more relaxed and energized following the class. Sadly Tidewater Hot Yoga Studio is closing at the end of the month but I'm hoping my experience at Zenya will be as good.

Weekly Weight Lifting...for both the yoga and my dance classes I need to work on my core strength as well as my upper body strength. Also I know that muscle is important in losing weight. And I feel good after I do it. My ultimate goal is two to three times a week but baby steps first.

Walking Two-Three Times a Week...both the dogs and I benefit from this. I am a person who cannot lose weight just on eating healthy alone I have to have exercise of some sort even if it is only 30 minutes three times a week. My dogs are high energy creatures who need to burn off their energy. If I take them for a walk I get two birds with one stone. (but don't mention birds in front of the dogs).

Fix and Eat More Meals at Home...I like to cook and further I like my cooking. I also find that when I cook I save money and calories. My goal is to make dinners that I can then bring for lunch. I have ~~a crazy obsession with~~ found many recipes online that I want to try including a pumpkin pasta recipe from Rachel Ray.

Daily Bible Study...I saved the best/most important for last. I lead a Bible Study at work called Balanced Living by First Place 4 Health and it has daily Bible study lessons which I usually do in the two days before the Bible study class. I want to get back in the habit of doing them daily.

5K - 4 Days Away

2011-11-01T12:09:00.000-04:00


If found on ground please drag across finish line

So on Saturday I am walking a 5K with my friend S. I really haven't done anything to prepare for it. I got out of the habit of walking the dogs because Ares had surgery and my Achilles Tendon was rubbed raw by a defective running shoe. So I'm trying to fit some walking into my schedule between now and Saturday. I know it won't fix it but I'm hoping it will make Saturday a little easier. I really meant to walk regularly to get ready for it. Things happen.

There aren't too many 5Ks left this year so my goal is to pick one or two for next year and plan on working on my walking prior to it. I've thought about doing the Couch to 5K but I'm not really into running. I lean more toward walking events like that.

So have you ever had good intentions of getting yourself ready for an exercise related event and then it sneaks up on you?

Happy Halloween!!

2011-10-31T11:14:00.000-04:00

In honor of Halloween, I was watching the movie The Rite with Anthony Hopkins but I admit I'm not a scary movie person and when it involves things like demons it freaks me out even more so I'm not sure if I'll make it through it. I like campy scary movies like Friday the 13th (no pun intended) or Nightmare on Elm Street because they are so over the top that the scary factor isn't too bad. But the creepy movies like the Omen or the Orphan those mess with me because the images will pop back into my head. I'm really more the It's a Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown kind of girl.

What about you what kind of movies do you like?

As for Halloween plans, I went to a crazy Halloween party on Saturday and had a great time!! And tonight I plan to hand out candy if I get home in time.

What about you what do/did you do for Halloween?

MilSpouse Roundup

2011-10-28T10:23:00.002-04:00

Head over to Life's Little Indulgences and link up.

MilSpouse Friday Fill-In

2011-10-28T10:16:00.001-04:00

1. The best part of October was getting a surprise phone call from my husband when I thought we were in email only mode.
2. The worst part of October was three funerals in three days at work.
3. For Halloween, I’ll be going to a Halloween party this weekend and probably in a Yoga class on Halloween itself.
4. I hope that in November the cold weather doesn't come too fast and too hard. And that Mom and I have a good Thanksgiving.
5. Wifey has posted MilSpouse Secret Santa. I will most likely be participating.

Now head over to Wife of a Sailor and link up!

Hot Yoga

2011-10-27T17:30:00.000-04:00

http://yoga-shorts.net/

I have practiced Yoga on and off since I was about 10 years old. I've always done basic poses in a class or as part of a warm up/cool-down at the gym. It has been a while since I've been in a class and on Tuesday I used my Living Social coupon to try Tidewater Hot Yoga.

I went to an hour long hot yoga class. I thought it was an interesting concept that the heat would allow you to stretch more. I was able to keep up with most of the class and really enjoyed it. I was dripping in sweat when I was done but I felt great! My favorite part was at the end when we were doing the closing she placed a cold peppermint oil cloth on our foreheads. It felt divine and it helped my sinuses greatly. Over all I loved the experience!

I have actually bought a 10 class pass at another studio to try them out. Then I may look to buy a punch card from one of them to do yoga on a regular basis. In the past when Mom did it regularly it helped in her weight loss and her emotional well being so that would be a nice bonus for me too.

Farm Club

2011-10-26T14:42:00.001-04:00

Mixed Box from Arganica Farm Club

The first rule of farm club is you don't talk about farm club....

Sorry I know that was a sad play on a quote from Fight Club. It is a hazard of living with my husband.

I'm on the Living Social and they are offering a one month membership to a Farm Club with a crate of produce and a $25 gift card for future purchases. I've been debating on and off since I saw the email. I have a couple days to see. I even did a mental pros and cons list that I will share here.

Pros:

Good healthy local vegetables (and other food)
Delivered to my front door
Exposure to new food
It is just a trial
It's delivered to my door

Cons:

I'm picky about vegetables and I'm worried I'll get something I don't like
It is just me so I don't want to waste food

So based on the pros and cons the pros are winning. I think I might do it. I'll keep you posted on if I do it and what I get.

Have you tried a Farm Club? Did you like it?

What I'm Reading

2011-10-25T17:03:00.001-04:00

www.amazon.com

I've started reading these two books. I'm enjoying both quite a bit. I am going a bit slower than I'd like to get through them because my work schedule is crazy but I'll get through them. When I do I'll post a full review of both.

There is a time and a purpose...

2011-10-24T17:08:00.003-04:00

I work in a church. As part of the life of a church you have funerals. This weekend we had three. One Saturday, one Sunday, and one today. I'm tired physically and emotionally. I promise I will be back to regular posting soon.

Clothes Make the Woman

2011-10-20T10:53:00.001-04:00

www.victoriasecret.com

I used to argue that clothes didn't matter to the job or the workout or the situation, etc. But now I'm realizing that the right clothes do make a difference. When I workout if I'm in sloppy sweats and a baggy t-shirt I still get the workout done but I feel slightly sloppy. If I go to my dance class in rocking Victoria Secret yoga pants and a sexy tank I rock it. I realize it is shallow but it is true for me. And if the right clothes motivate me to go that is awesome!!

www.eddiebauer.com

I've also noticed if I go to work put together in a nice outfit I feel more productive. And I feel more professional. I realize that I can still do my job in a less together outfit but something about the dressier outfit makes me happy.

I guess it's kind of like having the right tools for the job. So do you feel more motivated in certain clothes or are you more of a whatever goes kinda person?

Pet Love & Prayers

2011-10-19T07:30:00.000-04:00

Like many people our pets are our children. And when they don't feel well or have to have surgery, etc we worry just like a parent would worry. My neighbors have a 9 year old German Shepherd that is starting to have hip issues. So Monday night per their request I said a prayer over him. He went to the vet today and they are recommending physical therapy, swimming, and mild walks to help him out. We were all relieved. I know some people think it is crazy to pray for a pet but I think they are God's creatures too and He listens for prayers about them. My boy Ares goes in for some minor surgery on Thursday. If you are a praying type send one up for him.

Be it human or animal, touch is a life-giving thing. Has anyone ever had a stroke or a heart attack while cozied up with a pet? I doubt it. ~Robert Brault

I've looked at love from both sides now...

2011-10-18T07:30:00.000-04:00

I know I've talked about this before but it has come up in conversation again recently. J and I were talking about how neither of us fully understands what the other is going through during this deployment. And the truth is each side has its pluses and minuses. This is the list we came up with.

For the deployed person...
Pluses:

They get to go someplace different that doesn't have 200+ memories of their loved ones
They have a job to do that usually keeps them pretty busy
They are surrounded by people in the same boat (sometimes literally)
They sometimes get to have really neat and fun experiences depending on their location
They sometimes get to go to really cool places as part of their time away (being underway is particularly good for this)

Minuses:

They are someplace separate from their loved ones
They have a job to do that can be life threatening
They are constantly surrounded by people
They can't share what they are doing or where they are going with their loved ones
They aren't home to share in all the experiences going on while they are gone

For the spouse at home...
Pluses:

We are in a familiar environment with our home, our family, our pets, etc.
We are now doing the job of two people so we keep pretty occupied
We are in some cases surrounded by fellow military spouses who are going through the same thing or who have gone through the same thing so they ask how we're doing
We all have a list of things that we get to do when they are gone but we can't do when they are home (watch chick flicks, watch our tv shows, eat cereal for dinner, etc)
We aren't in harms way on a daily basis

Minuses:

We are in a familiar environment that reminds us of them and the fact that they aren't there
We are now doing the job of two people
We also have people around us who have no idea what we are going through and make insensitive comments.
We hold our breath when the phone rings, when there is a knock at the door, when a black car drives down the street slowly, etc.
We go for periods where we don't hear from them and we don't know what's going on. Which means we can't answer our family and friends when they as how is he doing and where is he?

What are some pluses and minuses for you and your spouse?

fitbook love

2011-10-17T08:00:00.000-04:00

picture from www.getfitbook.com

After reading about the fitbook over at The Life & Lessons of Rachel Wilkerson I was in love. I decided to go out to their website and check it out. They even have one for kids and a pink one for Breast Cancer Awareness. While over there I learned I could buy it at Target so I went there that night and bought it. I LOVE IT!!

It is a 12 week book that has space for your 12 week goals, your weekly goals, your food diary, your exercise diary, it tracks food groups, sleep, and it gives tips along the way. It is small enough to fit in a purse but small enough that you don't think it is taking up your whole purse. And it comes with a pen. (really that is what sold me I love my pens) It gives you plenty of room to write things down and it has suggestions on how to use each section and page. I really think it will be a great asset in my weight loss journey.

If you're looking for a great tool in your weight loss or health journey this is it. I think it is beneficial no matter where you are in your journey.

MilSpouse Friday Fill-In # 61

2011-10-14T11:24:00.004-04:00

1. A word that always makes me laugh is snarky. I think it's funny because it is really saying someone is being mean but it sounds funny.

2. If you looked in my refrigerator right now, the oldest thin you’d find would be hmm probably a bottle of dressing or a jar of pickles.

3. If I were written about in the newspaper today, on the front page, the headline would say “Exhausted Woman Does Her Best to Get it All Done”

4. The last movie I saw was Bridesmaids...friends recommended it so I thought why not. It was funny.

5. The best thing that happened to me in the last few weeks was I had a mind switch about working out and eating better.

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Mil Spouse Weekly Roundup # 56

2011-10-14T11:16:00.001-04:00

Head over to Iron and Sunshine and link up.

Addicted

2011-10-13T12:09:00.001-04:00

I am realizing I have an addictive personality. I have three major addictions. Food, TV, and biting my nails. I have managed to control my nail biting since about 2003. I still pick but overall I leave them alone. As for TV and Food they are harder.

I love food. I love sweet. I love spicy. I love salty. I love grilled. I love fried. I think you get the picture. I once described to my husband the sensation I get eating a piece of chocolate or drinking a Coke he laughed and said it sounded like a cigarette. I honestly think it is similar. There are days where I lust after chocolate or Coke. I'm working on this and I admit planning ahead is the biggest help for me. If I keep myself full of good stuff I crave less. Also if I allow myself to feel my feelings instead of hiding them with food I do better.

Now TV is a different creature altogether. I have a DVR so I just set it to record everything I want to watch then I go back and watch it. I spend less time watching because I skip commercials but I still spend a lot of time watching. I think right now it is my company. With J being gone being at home can get a little lonely and my beloved dogs can only do so much. So I keep the TV on to entertain and keep myself company. I know that TV is not the best thing to connect with but for now it will remain an addiction. Although tonight I'm going to go to the Y to workout and hopefully watch Charlie's Angels. I'll see how that goes.

What are your addictions?

Unrealistic Weightloss

2011-10-12T08:30:00.000-04:00

There seems to be a trend of extreme weight loss shows of late. The Biggest Loser, Extreme Makeover: Weight Loss Edition and I Used to Be Fat to name a few. I've watched The Biggest Loser and Extreme Makeover: Weight Loss Edition.Yesterday I watched I Used to Be Fat on MTV for the first time. I enjoy watching these shows because usually the stories are inspirational.But I worry about these shows because they have unrealistic weightloss in my opinion.

On I Used to Be Fat they have 110-115 days to lose their goal weight and on the couple of episodes the girls were trying to lose 90 lbs. They succeeded and they looked great at the end. But for one girl she went to the gym from 9-2 then worked from 4-9 and then came home and slept. She had no life outside work and and working out. And from what I can tell Biggest Loser and Extreme Makeover have similar work-out schedules. Now I realize these are people in extreme weight loss situations who are trying to lose large amounts of weight but I think it sets an unrealistic outlook for the average watcher.

Yet as I watch I think wow...90 lbs in 100 days that's pretty sweet. And I get inspired to eat better and exercise more. So maybe the shows serve a purpose to give us a jump-start, realizing that we won't be able to do exactly what they do because we don't have a live-in personal trainer or the flexibility in our schedules to work out for 4-5 hours a day. But that we can make time in our schedule to work out, eat well, and take care of ourselves.

So do you think extreme weight loss shows are a good thing?

Nook vs Kindle

2011-10-11T09:48:00.000-04:00

So I'm a reader...I have a ton of books. My husband hates my book collection because they take up space. I've cleaned out the one time reading books but still I have a collection. So my husband is encouraging me to get a digital reader. But now I'm confused. I don't know if I want to go with the nook or the kindle. I've heard good things about both. I liked the color aspect of the nook but now the kindle has color too. I've been told for straight reading that the kindle is really better. I'm thinking of adding this to my Christmas list.

For those of you who have them what are your likes and dislikes?

Happiness is...

2011-10-10T12:47:00.001-04:00

An email from your hubby who is halfway around the world and whom you haven't heard from in a while. I admit I got spoiled while he was in port over there because at least we could talk or text daily. When he's underway it is more touch and go depending on his schedule and computer availability. But he is doing OK but he breaks my heart when he says I'm his stability and sometimes he feels lost without me. We are about 1/3 of the way through this insanity. And we won't get to see each other again until next year sometime. But at least there is the light at the end of the tunnel that I'll get him back for a month.

In the meantime I'm focusing on me and weight loss. I really want to get healthier but I also want to surprise the socks (and other articles of clothing) off him.

Starting Anew & Epiphanies

2011-10-06T12:25:00.000-04:00

I've wrestled with my weight since I was 10 years old. I was in 4th grade and at the beginning of the year I was a petite little girl. By the end of the year I was wearing "husky" sizes and I looked like a ~~weeble~~ pudgy little girl. That was the year I learned we were moving from Alaska to Maine. I had never really known anything else, I started school in Alaska, all my friends were there, and everything I knew was there. My mother and brother also struggled with the move so our household became an emotional eating mess.

Since then I've wrestled with getting the pounds off. When I was a junior in high school I lost weight. Then I gained it back during my senior year and my freshman year of college. Then during my sophomore year of college I lost it again. Then I met my ex-husband and the pounds piled back on due to an unhealthy diet and emotional eating. Since then I have lost no more than 20 pounds each time I try to lose weight. I wasn't sure what the wall was until I was journaling recently. I have come to realize that I'm afraid of the attention that comes from being thinner, being hurt, and fear of failure.

To use a phrase that a co-worker loves...let's unpack this a bit...

Issue #1 - Fear of attention that comes from being thinner...
I am a behind the scenes kinda girl. When I go out in a group I like to look sexy and put together but I'm not over the top or anything. Although I do like a bit of cleavage. But I'm not the big attention getter if you will. I like to be in a small circle of friends. And I don't like to be center of attention at all. In my experience if you are thinner (aka sexier) you get more attention. I'm not sure I'm ready for that.

Issue # 2 - Fear of being hurt...
A number of people in my life are victims of sexual assault and most of them were thin when it happened. Now I know from a logical stand point that weight doesn't prevent or increase your likelihood of you getting sexually assaulted, victims can be all sizes. But because of hearing about it at a young age (early teens) I think it was always in the back of my head that is you were thin you were more sexually attractive and thus more likely to be attacked. I never said these fears were rational.

Issue # 3 - Fear of Failure...
I've long had a fear of failure. I am a procrastinator extraordinaire because if I wait til the last minute and it doesn't go or turn out well it is because I rushed it. I've been told I'm a closet perfectionist and that I quit things half way or wait til the last minute because then it can't be perfect. That is how I view a lot of things surrounding weight loss.

If I can't work out for an hour why workout at all.
If I can't eat everything healthy why bother eating anything healthy.
If I can't get to my dance class why bother doing anything that night.
If I can't take the dogs for a 30 minute walk each why bother walking them at all.

I think you see the pattern. Things have to be all the way or not at all. I've been working on this but it is a big hurtle for me to get over.

Tonight marks the beginning of my fourth session with First Place 4 Health. I admit part of me is looking forward to starting again and part of me is tired and wants to go home. I said I would give God a year. The end of this 12 week session will be the year. I don't feel like I've seen a big change in my living. I don't feel more balanced. I'm hoping I can use this to get back on track. We'll see. Say a prayer for me.

Product Love

2011-10-04T13:42:00.001-04:00

A friend of mine turned me on to this product and I love it! It is fun! It adds a bit of glitter liner to any eye look without looking over the top. It is especially fun around black lights. If you're looking for a little sparkle I suggest you check it out. Next time I wear it I'll make sure to take a picture.

Halloween

2011-09-29T12:42:00.000-04:00

I can't believe Saturday starts October...where did the year go? But do you know what this means? We are closer to Halloween!! Halloween is one of my favorite seasons second only to Christmas. I like the trick or treaters, the costumes, the decorations, the parties, etc. I love the cutesy and the scarey Halloween stuff. I can't wait to dig out my Halloween decorations and this year I'm decorating the house. My neighbor and I have made a pact. My only concern with decorating is having someone mess with it. But we'll see how it goes.

So what is your favorite season? Do you decorate for Halloween? If so what do you do?

Land of the Free...Because of the Brave

2011-09-28T08:00:00.000-04:00

Ok maybe it is the way I was raised...maybe it is because I'm a military brat...maybe it's because I'm a military wife...maybe it's because I'm an American...but there are a few things I believe...

Respect the National Anthem.You should stand, take your hat off, stop talking, and put your hand on your heart (or at your sides) when the National Anthem is sung or played.
Respect the American Flag. If you put a flag out you have it lit or take it in at night, get rid of it properly if it is looking ratty or otherwise torn, and make sure it is not touching the ground.
Respect the President. Whether you like him (or her) or not, respect the President of the United States because they are the President of the United States.
Respect the Men and Women who serve in the military. I'm sorry you disagree with our actions in other countries but the freedom of speech does not give you a right to bash the very people who defend that freedom (the military protesters kill me).
Respect our Country. Ok I get it you don't like what the government is doing and yes it is your right to ask questions and challenge them to do better. But that very country/government that you bash is the reason you can bash it. If you lived in a lot of other countries you would be drug out in the street and beat or killed for saying anything against the government or the country. So respect and appreciate that you are an American.

I'm sure there is more but I've ranted enough for one day so for today I'm done.

Today is not one of those days...

2011-09-27T10:06:00.002-04:00

I applaud the Navy (all military) wives that can talk about how awesome deployment is and how they love it and what a great thing it is for their relationship, etc. some days I can do that too. Today is not one of those days. As some of you know my husband is on Geo Bachelor assignment to Japan so ours is a bit different. He left in September of last year and came home in June for R&R. The next time it is likely he'll be home is next fall sometime. I'm ok with this I handle it ok most days.

Today is not one of those days. We've been able to talk to each other on the phone a lot lately but now due to some changes in duty he and I are back to talking by email randomly. Now I know email is better than nothing and that some people go much longer than that without talking to their spouses so I'm grateful about email but I'm having issues today with not getting to start my day hearing his voice. And to top it off I missed a call yesterday afternoon from him which would have been the last for a while.

I know this is temporary and I know that this is not a crisis but today is not a good day for me.

Running Along Side the Wagon

2011-09-26T12:07:00.001-04:00

Oh about a couple months ago I fell off the wagon of eating and exercise... I am currently running along side of the wagon trying to get back on. And frankly that's the most activity I've had in a long time. The kicker is I know what I need to do. I know what foods are healthy and what activities are good for me but I lack motivation and energy. I know I know if I exercise it will help my energy same thing with my eating. I swear I could write my own diet book. I've been on every plan from Weight Watchers to Slim Fast to Prism to First Place 4 Health.

I admit I wrestle with this a lot because I'm still the leader of First Place 4 Health but I'm not following the plan as far as eating and exercise. I feel like I'm saying do as I do not as I say. I acknowledged from the beginning that I was in it with them. I struggle and I don't have it all figured out. I know I need to do something. There is a history of heart disease in my family along with other health issues. So I'm working on it. As I said I see the wagon I can almost touch it and I will get back on it.

What do you do to lose weight?

Mil Spouse Roundup #54

2011-09-23T10:46:00.001-04:00

Head over to Crafty Camo Lover and link up.

Mil Spouse Friday Fill-In

2011-09-23T10:44:00.000-04:00

1. My favorite thing that happened this week was getting an amazing night's sleep and actually waking up rested. (I know this sounds boring but when J is deployed I don't sleep well)

2. Find a penny, pick it up and all day long you’ll feel like I have better luck even if I don't.

3. Autumn is officially here and my favorite part of the season is the cooler weather and the leaves changing. I love the Colonial Parkway this time of year...just wish J were here so we could ride the bike.

4. One of the things I’d like to do before winter arrives is get my front porch painted. It has taken a beating thanks to the weather and needs it badly.

5. I (((would/would not/might))) be willing to participate in MilSpouse Secret Santa. (sorry folks, just trying to get an idea here on how many would participate, so please circle/underline/bold one)

Now head over to Wife of a Sailor and Link Up

Wordless Wednesday - Erin Condren Life Planner

2011-09-21T08:00:00.000-04:00

I went home at lunch to take out the dogs and there it was...

Just opening the box brought a smile...

Enjoy!!

Presentation is everything

Pretty Notepads

My Planner!!

I love it!!

Extreme Makeover: Home Edition - Preview Review

2011-09-20T15:57:00.002-04:00

My little blog is going big time...a little while back I was approached by Corby Pons from Different Drummer to watch the upcoming season premiere episode of Extreme Makeover: Home Addition. I was so excited to be chosen I was chomping at the bit to see the episode. When I got the link I watched it immediately. I was not disappointed. It is a special episode from a military perspective. Barbara Marshall, retired Navy Officer (chaplain) and her late husband James started the Jubilee House for homeless female veterans and their children. The goal of the Jubilee House is to help these women get back on their feet and according to Barbara to "help women get back into the game of life." They gain housing, career counseling, and much more to help them restore themselves. As usual it was a moving, emotional episode, that reminded me of how blessed I am and what people can do when they work together.

Tune in Sunday, September 25th at

7:00 PM/6:00 central on ABC to see the Season Premiere!!!

Some of the highlights:

The show opened with going to the White House to meet Mrs. Michelle Obama who is very active in Joining Forces.
Then we met Barbara, her son, and the other ladies of the Jubilee House.
Barbara took Ty on a tour of the house to show him some of the areas that were in desperate need of repair including the "swamp" basement that had standing water/mud.
The families from the Jubilee House were sent to Disney World to have fun.
All branches of the military were involved in helping with this makeover. It was fun to see them working side by side.
There were many surprises throughout the show for the ladies who live at Jubilee House and for those who have been through the program including a Career Expo put on by Sears.
Another big surprise was a well known superstar singer.
Ty worked very hard to give Barbara a space for herself.
The other designers worked to give the current residents of the Jubilee House a special space with special touches just for them.
And of course an amazing reveal of the house with surprise after surprise!!

I cannot encourage you enough to watch this show. If you are military, former military, a military spouse, a military brat, or a civilian you will be moved by Barbara's story and by the stories of the other women at the Jubilee House. It was a fun, exciting, moving episode!

Thursday Top 10

2011-09-15T08:00:00.000-04:00

Top 10 - Things That Make Me Think About My Husband and smile...

His clothes...I find random pieces every once in while like a sock or a t-shirt
His body wash...I leave the partially used bottle in the shower
The Garage...it's his space and it reminds me of him
His Jeep...it sits in the driveway waiting for him
Our Kitchen...before we met he renovated our kitchen and it is his pride and joy so every time I cook I think of him and smile
Our basement...when he was home on R&R he reorganized our basement which has made things much easier for me
His cologne...ok true confession...sometimes I spray a bit on my pillow case
Our house in general...it is the site of our first date...our first kiss...etc...and it has a lot of memories for me
My wedding ring...he's given it to me twice and I never take it off...every time I see it I smile
Our song...we danced to "Then" by Brad Paisley at our wedding and it fits us so much...I still remember the tear on his cheek as we danced (he would kill me for sharing that)

Wordless Wednesday - Blessings

2011-09-14T08:00:00.000-04:00

Bead Class - Leather Wrap Bracelet

2011-09-13T08:00:00.000-04:00

I had a great time at Bead Haven (if you're ever in Hampton, Va I suggest you check it out) this past Sunday learning how to make a leather wrap bracelet. It is a skill I'd been wanting to learn for a while so I was thrilled when I saw the class come up. Had a nice small class with a great instructor. I look forward to making many more and I'm trying to figure out how to make it more masculine to make one for J. We'll see how that goes.

Dreams...and cars

2011-09-12T16:10:00.001-04:00

'75 Super Beetle

Ever since I was 18 I've loved the VW Bug. I tried to talk my parents into letting me buy one no luck. The other day I'm driving down the road when I see this beauty for sale. I admit I stopped and looked and it is a good deal but I doubt I will buy it. It isn't really a practical car and frankly I don't have an extra few thousand dollars to throw into a car if it isn't running right, etc. But the dream was fun and she was pretty.

Remember 9-11

2011-09-11T20:34:00.001-04:00

Today is the 10th Anniversary of 9-11.

Please keep the families of those who died in your prayers.

In remembrance of 9-11 I want to thank the men and women of
the U.S. Military, firefighters, police, and all other first responders
who are willing to risk their lives to save ours.
Your sacrifice will not be forgotten.

Wordless Wednesday (almost)

2011-09-07T10:47:00.004-04:00

Fall Favorites

Weather cool enough for a fire...


It's Back!!!

Hot Cocoa...yummy


Sweaters and Sweater Dresses

Back to School

2011-09-06T09:37:00.001-04:00

Last night I had to go to Office Max to get some supplies for work. I admit it was a tad bittersweet to see all the displays of school supplies and know I didn't need them. I haven't for quite some time but I still miss going and buying notebooks, pens, dividers, paper, folders, etc. I still think the biggest highlight for me was getting the 64 count box of crayons with the built in sharpener. It had such potential of creativity.

I decided since I'm not in school anymore that I'll find other sources of mental stimulation. I've signed up for two bead classes at my local bead store, Bead Haven. One is a leather wrap bracelet and the other is a metal stamping class. I can't wait.

Happy Back to School Day!!

Happy Anniversary!!

2011-09-05T09:29:00.000-04:00

We had some fun with the cake at this wedding.

Two years ago today in a picnic pavillion by a lake at a campground I married the most amazing man I know who is also my best friend!! I can't believe it's been two years. Happy Anniversary baby!!

Hello Irene!!

2011-08-27T10:29:00.000-04:00

So Irene has made landfall in North Carolina. We've had rain/light wind on and off since 4:00 am. They are predicting the eye will hit Virginia Beach between 4:00 and 6:00 pm. Good news it's moving quickly and it is weakening. I still have electricity. Keeping my fingers crossed and saying prayers! All those on the east coast stay safe!!

Top 10 Positives of Deployment

2011-08-22T12:36:00.000-04:00

All too often during deployments I think it is easy to focus on the negatives of deployment. I've decided to do a top 10 of the positives of deployment.

Puppies - the dogs naturally gravitate toward J with their love and kisses. While he's gone I'm getting it. It is nice.
TV - I get to watch what I want when I want and no running commentary on how "gay or dumb" a show is. I get to watch "Say Yes to the Dress" and "Dancing with the Stars" in peace.
Working on me - J has no problem with me doing stuff for myself but when he's home I love spending time with myself. This time alone is helping me focus on me and learn some balance.
Having the bed alone - (well almost) I share it with two puppies but I get to spread out and sleep in the middle.
Eating what I want - sometimes I don't feel like cooking sometimes I like eating grilled cheese two nights in a row. And while he's gone it's easy. I eat what I want. And knowing when I come home everything I left in the fridge will still be there. lol
Our Relationship - because we don't see each other everyday we have to find other ways to communicate. Thank God for technology! And so in some ways I think we are stronger in our relationship because of it.
My friends - I have been surprised at some of the people I thought would check often and don't and some of the people I thought wouldn't care but do. It has been a learning experience.
Work - Both J and I have observed that we are able to give work more during deployment because we aren't worried about going home to the other.
Hobbies - I'm getting back into some things I haven't done in a while.
My Faith - I now have the mantra "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength" I am convinced that without God I wouldn't survive this.

What are some of your favorite things from deployment?

Viber iPhone App

2011-08-18T09:48:00.000-04:00

If you have an iPhone you should check out viber. You can talk and text other iPhone users for free. This is particularly wonderful if say you and your deployed spouse both have an iPhone. J has an iPhone he got shortly after he got to Japan. It is on his Japanese network. I have an iPhone I got when Verizon got the technology. It is on my network. Viber is VoIP (voice over IP) so it uses data lines instead of being a phone call. It has been wonderful to talk to my husband. I did research before we started using it to make sure it was valid. Even Apple endorses it. I love this app!!!

Planning

2011-08-17T17:00:00.000-04:00

Hi, my name is Megan and I have a planning problem...

(Hi Megan)

I'm a free flowing planner...sometimes I very much like plans other times I like to wait and see or just see what happens. I have two calendars that I run at the same time...I have a Franklin Covey desk calendar and my iPhone calendar. I have used Franklin Covey for the past five years and I like it but really it is more than I need because I don't use all of its different elements. So I'm thinking of switching to this one by Erin Condren...

or this one...

In Honor of the Fallen

2011-08-08T16:14:00.000-04:00

In honor of the fallen:

31 lost
31 unwanted visits
31 doors receive that dreaded knock
31 families with shattered hearts
31 pairs of boots lined up with rifles and dog tags and helmets
31 comrades remembered and grieved for
31 funeral services
31 names on newly made grave markers
31 empty places at the table
31 souls who gave all, whose lives leave a void,
so take 31 seconds to pray and pay respect.

Deployment "Bucket List"

2011-08-07T21:01:00.000-04:00

I've decided to create a Deployment "Bucket List." Jason is gone for three years total but we're down to two years left. I figure I can either survive through deployment or thrive through deployment. So let's thrive!!

There will be 36 items one for each month he's gone.

1. Go to church regularly
2. ~~Lead a Bible Study~~
3. Sing karaoke
4. Walk 2-3 5Ks a year
5. Eat healthier
6. Cook more
7. Take the motorcycle riding class
8. ~~Take classes at Studio Rio~~
9. Go to Mountain Lake (Dirty Dancing was filmed there)
10. Get both of our dogs through training
11. Get into an exercise routine
12. Figure out self-care
13. Take classes in Adobe InDesign, Photoshop, and Illustrator
14. Clean out my basement/attic
15. Have a yard sale after above
16. Go outside my comfort zone in mission work
17. Fix one thing in our house on my own
18. Give God a year
19. Get our yard straight so J comes home to clean flower beds and grass on the front lawn
20. Get our debts paid
21. Sand and Paint our front porch
22. Clean out our garage
23. Take Ares and Eva to Nags Head
24. Get my office organized
25. Paint my bedroom
26. Paint my dining room
27. Take beading classes
28. ~~Have a pin up photo shoot~~
29. Go to see J's family by myself
30. Take hot yoga classes
31. Recover our couch myself (ourselves) - in process
32. Make a duvet cover for our bed and curtains for our bedroom
33. Do daily Bible study and prayer
34. Send birthday/anniversary cards to our family members
35. Write Jason a handwritten letter every week he's gone and send regular care packages
36. Have fun and grow!!