My boss says "Trust is like Grandma's vase once broken it can be put back together but it is never the same."
As I go through the parts of my parents divorce I am constantly reminded that things will never be the same. On Monday I had to go to the lawyer's office for the deposition for Mom and Dad's divorce. They needed someone who knew the beginning and the end to verify Mom's statement. I admit this hit me harder than I thought it would. I get it is a needed part of the process but still to have to do it for your parents was rough. But it is done. Then I just have to go sign the document so it can go to the judge. Then their divorce will be processed in the courts.
I will admit that Mom and Dad both seem happier since they have separated. It is probably something that should have happened years ago. I'm still sorry that it has happened. I don't care what age you are divorce is not something you expect for your parents.
What I am grieving is that my family will never be the same. We will never have holiday dinners together. We will never share family memories together. It will always be different than it was. Is change bad? No, but it is change and change takes time.
Good things come out of bad things. And that is what I'm holding on to during this experience. That and my favorite quote...
God never gives me more than I can handle I just wish He didn't have such faith in me. ~ Mother Theresa