Friday, December 10, 2010

I want our marriage to be a threesome

Got your attention didn't I...but before you think I'm crazy...ok it may be too late on that account...I'm referring to God...J and I.

Because of what has happened with my parents I've been taking a deep look at relationships. I used to pride myself that my parents had been married for 42 years. J and I celebrated the fact when we started dating that both our parents were still married. But as I look at my parents they really haven't had a good relationship in about 10 years. They have had a partnership. Dad would spend most of his time in his study and Mom would be in the living room. They would occasionally go out to dinner together but not for fun more for necessity. Mom went to church and Dad never set foot in one. Dad didn't see a need for religion he could explain it with science. I always assumed this was just how relationships changed as you were together longer. But lately I've been looking at other relationships. Some are 5 years, some 10 years, some 25 years, some 40 years, and some over 50 years. I've noticed something important in the relationships that have lasted and are still happy. God is in the center.

People always say that it is good for couples to have different interests and that you need to maintain your independence, etc. I agree with this to an extent I'll cover more of that in a different post. I believe in God. I believe in Jesus Christ as my savior. I believe that we need a relationship with God. I enjoy going to church. I enjoy working in a church. (most of the time) I enjoy going to church events. My ex-husband didn't like this. My current husband has since admitted that he started dating me in hopes that I would get him back to church. I think this is too big an interest not to share. In order for a marriage to work I think this is one interest you have to share. Now if neither of you have an interest in God that may work too. But I think faith is a journey to be shared together. We will each have our own relationship with God but we will also have a relationship with God together.

So our marriage will be a threesome.

2 comments:

Wife on the Roller Coaster said...

I think you've found the perfect threesome. Great post!

Nice to see you on the weekly roundup!

Poekitten said...

I agree! Well said:)