The meanderings of a church worker and her retired sailor, their lives as they enter the civilian world, their furbabies, and her new business venture.
This past weekend I was with a group of friends who I've known since college and somehow this led us to a conversation on exes. (probably because we were all with different people when we met) And I had an interesting realization. I used to say that part of me would always love my first love and my ex-husband. (two different men) But I realized on Saturday that no I don't still love them in a romantic sense. I still care about them and wish them the best in life; well now I do since I've gotten past the I'd like to hit them with a shovel feeling. But I think it would be really unfair to J if part of me still loved them. Because to me that means that I can't give my whole heart to him. And he has my whole heart romantically speaking. Now part of this may seem a bit odd or silly but to me it is an important distinction. I think if you still have any feelings for an ex it can stir up trouble. Both J and I had resolved our issues before we got married so that made things much easier. But I truly believe you have to let go of the past before you can move to the future. And I think had I felt there was still a question for him I wouldn't have moved forward in our relationship.
What are your thoughts do exes still have a place in your hearts or do you have to let go to move on?
My exes will always have a place in my heart, but not romantically. For the time we were together, I was best friends with my exes and we went through some big life experiences / changes together. I look back on our time together fondly now, and I'll always have love and respect for them. But I have completely moved on!
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I'm a bit unusual but since all of are doesn't that make us usual? I am an Air Force brat born at the Air Force Academy. I was fortunate that I moved to some cool places but not too many...I now call sultry Southeast Virginia my home. I am with a great Navy guy but I understand the joys (and pains) of being single. I love children...but I love visiting with them and don't plan on having them. But I am a Mommy to four kitties and two beautiful Pit bulls. (although one is a baby boy so he is handsome not beautiful) I love my family with all its quirks. Like many people I have an issue with weight and food so I'm working on it.
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My exes will always have a place in my heart, but not romantically. For the time we were together, I was best friends with my exes and we went through some big life experiences / changes together. I look back on our time together fondly now, and I'll always have love and respect for them. But I have completely moved on!
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